Date Published: 10/30/2018
Publisher: My Story Publishing
Most people think big girls have low self esteem and do not feel as sexy as the models with the perfect bodies that we constantly see on TV. I never knew there was anything wrong with me until I kept seeing people on TV telling me I was too fat, too sloppy and definitely ugly. Every commercial emphasizes the need to have that perfect plastic-factory body. While everyone thinks that fat is sloppy or unattractive, I have learned to embrace it. I choose to live my life fat, free and fabulous! And I am here to motivate you. Patrice Shavone Brown reveals her truth and secrets to being and becoming a proud fat girl. As you read this book, you will discover the confidence that you never thought you could have. Join the Confident Fat Girls Movement with Patrice. “Let’s be the beauty they all said we could never be,” she concludes.
I am Patrice Shavone Brown, a Mental Health Counselor, and Director. I am an author, motivational speaker, life coach, actress, and a single mother. I own a mental health facility, which I have run for five years at the time of this writing. I am the oldest of three siblings and have a disability, which motivated me into a helpers‘ profession.
I have struggled with my weight for years to the point that the ups and downs of gaining weight are no longer something I would be ashamed of. I have learned that I have to love myself regardless of my size. This was never easy for me because I had certain family members who would say, ―You are getting bigger; you need to stop eating.‖ ―Now stop eating!‖ Yes, people said mean things to me and, trust me, they stung me like bees. You see, in my journey of being a fat girl, I found peace and acceptance of myself first. Before my confidence began, I had to develop strength.
Although what I am about to share may seem crazy, it is not. When building on anything in life, you have to practice and strengthen yourself. You have to admit that you are fat and prepare your mind for people‘s reactions. This preparation gets you ready to respond to the judgments of others. Confidence begins when you have prepared yourself and accepted your flaws. Self-esteem building is all about knowing that you are important, needed, loved, and different, and that we all have flaws but are beautiful still.
I have written this book, A Fat Girl‘s Confidence, so that you can become aware of my journey into the recognition of myself as beautiful; fat or big notwithstanding. As a woman shaped differently (by society‘s standard for beauty), I have been challenged to write about my feelings and experiences as I was labeled obese at the age of 30.
The word obese seems harsh but funny to me. I had always heard fat and was okay with being just fat.
Obese sounds like I am a big, fat case of death monster! Say it, O-BEE-S. So now, society has labeled me a beast because I am fat. If the word obesity is not enough to kill one‘s self-esteem or confidence, I do not know what will. I am motivated to share my tips of confidence because, even with the label obese, I still love what I see in the mirror.
As a teenager, boys loved me and, yes, in school boys crushed on fat girls too. As an adult, men like me for what they see in me. I don‘t want any female that is a size 8 or below to make you feel like you are a nobody just because you are fat. If you are a teenager or a grown woman battling with weight and negative comments from others, hold on beautiful, your motivational fat girl is here to help you feel better about being you!
I have come to inspire you into a one-week commitment to change your mindset about being fat. My mindset is that I am always going to be fat or big, but I have to atone. I have to be happy with myself when I look in the mirror with clothes on or clothes off. I will lose weight when I need to or want to, but it will happen only when I choose. I refuse to listen to society tell me that I am not good enough.
This book is a seven-day self-esteem workbook and inspiration book for fat girls. It has day one through day seven listed along with seven inspirational boosts and actions that will help you begin to boost who you truly are in God‘s eye. This book has secrets on learning to manage your weight as well as learning to shape your body. It focuses on finding the beauty within us as well as helping us decide to get up and live in our heavy shoes because no one can do that the way we can as fat girls.
About the Author
Author of A Fat Girl’s Confidence Guide, published by My Story Publishing Company, also the founder of the “Confident Fat Girls Movement”
Patrice Shavone Brown is a mother of two beautiful children. She is also the big sister of two siblings. Most of all she is “me.”
She is a person that has had storms and mountains to climb. She is still climbing. Patrice lost her mom to cancer June 2017. She does not paint pretty pictures about her life or surroundings.
Helping people is at the heart of everything that Patrice does. She has spent the last two decades serving her community as a Mental Health Counselor. Her greatest satisfaction comes from empowering others and assisting in people’s healing through the power of words.
“It’s hard, yet life is what you make it. And it is full of twists and turns,” says Patrice.
Patrice has owned and operated Restoring Bodies and Minds, restoringbodiesminds.org, for the past seven years. She’s an over achiever. She likes to excel, and she has tremendous drive and determination. If at first you don’t succeed, try again, is at her core.
Brown has also authored four books. Her books are based on her everyday life experiences. The titles are Secrets Of A Crazy Mental Health Counselor, The Day Momma Made Me Dance, We Blend Well Together, A Fat Girl’s Confidence Guide, A Fat Girl’s Confidence: Beating Depression and Building Self Esteem, The Finesser and The Finesser 2.
Patrice holds an MA, BA, and AAS. She is also an Anger Management Specialist