How to Let Go of the Past, Redefine Your Present, and Create a Positive Future
Non Fiction / Self-help
Date Published: Sept 17
Publisher: Rainbow Ridge
There are no accidents in this life—and the more aware we become, the more we’re able discover the patterns that challenge, elevate, and enlighten us. In “Conversations with the Past,” Dr. Aura Imbarus delves into many of the profound experiences she’s had over the years—from emotional breakdowns to spiritually elevated states—in order to help people discover and understand their own purpose in life. Through this exploration, we will all be inspired to examine our own lives and take the necessary steps to enhance our happiness and well-being.
Emotional, physical, and spiritual experiences are all part of the intricate, interwoven tapestry of existence. And though it may sometimes feel like finding our life’s purpose is difficult and elusive, Dr. Imbarus demonstrates how it can, and will, be revealed to the curious mind and willing hear.
A Letter to My Past
It has been awhile since you have been following me, shadowing me, and, sometimes even overlapping your wings with my present moment. For so many years, I have dragged you wherever I went; I have fed you precious moments of my life; I have quarreled with you to no avail, and I have been upset when you misjudged my actions. In all fairness, I tried to support you, to be on good terms with you, to cater to you and please you, but we have never really been on the same page. We both made face; we acted civil and courteous, but, come on, is that where we stand after all? Do we really love each other? Do we really care for each other?
I don’t think so.
I came here in the present moment, and I foolishly thought that we had solved our problems; we sorted out our misunderstandings, and we made peace with each other.
It just doesn’t look like that.
I wanted to close the door on you, for I realized that I was not able to pay attention to my actual partner: the present. But you insisted on leaving the door ajar, so I did! What a mistake that was. Any moment I was trying to leave you behind, you were sneaking behind my back, sometimes pinching me to distract me from “now,” other times ambushing me or confusing me. I didn’t know what to believe anymore; I didn’t know who I was, for you, my dear friend, were playing with my mind, and you were dragging me in your time.
My dear past, what did I do to you that you couldn’t let me go? How did I wrong you? And, if we are here, so angry with one another, how can we mend our bridges? Or can we even do that?
Let’s look for a minute at your agenda: You wanted me in Romania; you wanted me afraid, for I grew up in a communist regime; you wanted me to become a follower, for leaders were not welcomed; you wanted me poor, for scarcity was all I was exposed to; you wanted me sick, for medications or even human conditions with hot water and heat were monitored and controlled; you wanted me to starve, for food was rationed; you wanted me to blend in, for standing out was a crime; you wanted me in dim colors, for bright ones were nowhere to be found and not allowed; you wanted me in a uniform, for conformity our common ground; you wanted me limited in my beliefs so you could control my mind better; you wanted me to not believe in God, for the Communist Party was our father in heaven and on earth. You wanted me to be weak, so you could make me strong; you wanted me to spy and turn in my friends, for you said you were my only real adviser.
You think I still need you, but I do not.
My dear past, we had a run; good or bad, it is just a matter of interpretation!
But we are done. You have served me well; you have given me life and raised me, and for that I am thankful. But now, the time has come to say good-bye. The time has come to look each other in the eyes, really look and feel and, with no regrets, with no remorse, just say good-bye.
I truly thank you for all my mistakes; I thank you for all the cloudy days, for they made me appreciate the sunny ones when they came. I thank you for all my downs, for they made me stronger and more resilient. I thank you for all the crazy nights slept in fear, for now I know what it means to live in love. I thank you for all the pitch-black nights, for now I am thrilled with the bright days. I thank you for all my scarcity, for I would not know how to detect and be grateful for the present abundance.
I thank you for raising me with a kind soul, for that soul now gives you blessings and forgiveness while setting you free!
Good-bye, my dear past! I love you!
About the Author
Dr. Aura Imbarus is an awarded educator, freelance journalist, motivational speaker, and author of the critically acclaimed Amazon best-seller and Pulitzer Prize entry, Out of the Transylvania Night: A Story of Tyranny, Freedom, Love and Identity (Bettie Youngs Books, 2010), a memoir detailing her life in Romania during the Communist regime and an upcoming self-help book, Conversations with the Past: A Journey Home (Rainbow Ridge Books, August 2020).
She is also the President and Founder of See Beyond Media, a company focusing on adolescents’ challenges in the 21st century, having as its launching platform See Beyond Magazine (www.seebeyondmag.com). See Beyond Media also offers life coaching and author coaching (www.seebeyondmedia.com).
Dr. Imbarus has a BA in Foreign Languages; MA in American and British Studies and a PhD in World Humanities. Since 1998, she has been teaching high school and college level classes in So. Cal. Dr. Imbarus is a licensed hypnotherapist, having trained with Dr. Brian Weiss and Dr. Wanita Holmes.
She was featured on NBC, ABC, CNBC, Good Morning San Diego, Forbes Romania, etc.
In 2019, she received President’s Volunteer Service Award signed by President Donald Trump.
Aura Imbarus is the President and Co-Founder of RAPN – Romanian American Professional Network and one of the founding members of RACC – Romanian-American Chamber of Commerce, Los Angeles Chapter. She sits on the Advisory Council of CA Ballet, is a member of Royal Society of St. George, SACC – Swiss-American Chamber of Commerce. She was a mentor for Scott L. Schwartz Children’s Foundation, a non-profit and professional organization whose mission is to help children with disabilities, and she sat on the Board of Wesley Foundation UCLA and Blue Heron Foundation.
She writes for Palos Verdes Pulse, The Global Woman Magazine (London); Elephant Journal, Beverly Hills Times Magazine, The Immigrant, Hermannstader Zeitung in Transylvania and also works as a freelance journalist for Entertainment and Sports Today.
In her free time she likes to go dancing, hiking, skiing, yoga, gym, sailing; she loves traveling.